Dear konabear0909:

You asked: “Don’t I deserve to find happiness?” It reminds me of a line by Clint Eastwood in the movie Unforgiven. The line is: “Deserving got nothing to do with it.”

You make the best choices you can make and hope for the best, that is all. You got attached to this man, felt safe with him at times, and now you long for that safety and comfort. (Safety that didn’t exist really in the relationship; it only FELT safe). You also imagine everyone else is happy and you are the only one who is not.

Not true. When we are miserable, we imagine everyone else is happy. This is not so. It only FEELS this way.

What we feel is often-enough not an indication of what is real. It takes wisdom to combine Logic and Emotion and make better and better choices, as you move on.

You can pick up the pieces and put them together into a beautiful picture, all of your own making, wise choice following wise choice… one hour, one day at a time.

anita