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Elvia Carter
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Thanks for your quick reply.

Honestly I am not sure I can find the qualities I love in him in another man. The things I love about him as you can see are not superficial. They are (what I feel) emotional compatibility. Another thing I like about him is that he is extremely patient. Very sweet temperer which is another complement to my short temper. I am not sure I can find all these in another man. But I dun want to say a blind statement that I would not find another love again. Because me at 21 might be suitable with this guy but me at 25 might have other emotional needs that someone else might be able to fulfil better. But at this point in my life right now, I still feel like I could not be able to love another person the way I did towards him and find another soulful connection. And yes you are right. He does not like to be surrounded by people who believed in different things. He often told me (during ldr) that he feels like a different person in UK. It is another aspect of his personality, he said. And also there were this awful relationship he went through two years before me, which involved financial and emotional stress on his parents’part. He still feels guilty about that burden he put on his parents. And I think he wants to make his parents happy. And his Mother is worried that I will hurt him because of Long distance and all. There is a lot of emotional investment when there is very little hope for the future. He expressed those concerns for me as well. And ldr is expensive with lots of visits. He doesn’t wanna ask his parents for money again especially to maintain his relationship. He was working before we broke up to save up to come but somehow along the way, things didn’t work out 🙁 With his ex, when he was away at college, he got an apartment on campus and lived with his ex. And he told me that his ex cheated money on him and also was unfaithful. Sigh. I think now you get the rough idea about why he might have made the decision to break his ldr off. It is not just distance.