Dear kds28:

I would say, “cut (your) losses and say this is it” because you need a man with less challenges to add to yours. These are his challenges: jobless, no clear career path, living-with-his-mother, a damaging divorce with two daughters who are being mistreated (used as a bargaining chip), and a history of leaving you twice, second time without telling you.

You have a dream of a life of love with a man, keep the dream, only choose a candidate more likely to make this dream come true, one with fewer challenges that need to be overcome.

anita