Dear throiath:

Shannon was not and is not your one chance for happiness. In fact, you didn’t think so yourself when “those happy, tender feelings towards my girlfriend were gone. I couldn’t even recall being happy when I was with her, and this tortured me..” You were tortured, not happy. And because of this torture, you initiated a break with her.

You made a close contact with her at one time, then it felt that it was gone. And then the feeling was back. It seems to me that if she was willing and available, the feeling of closeness on your part wouldn’t stay the same and that is because of your “childhood emotional neglect and abuse.”

You mentioned attending therapy- what did you learn about yourself, how you operate emotionally and are you still in therapy?

anita