Dear AH:

When you wrote that he is “solid as a rock” and that he loves you ” to the moon and back”- you mean, on his own timing, his own chosen place and time? Not when you are waiting for him, not when and where you need him?

If you can elaborate on the solid-as-a-rock and the nature of his love for you, it will help me understand.

What I figure, his unreliable behavior with you- not calling or showing up when he says he will, on a regular basis, would be disturbing behavior to anyone, regardless of past issues and present insecurities- it is simply a distressing, unloving behavior.

anita