Hi Anita,

Thanks for your compassion. The move won’t add to my triggering-type anxiety (the worst kind because it feels unbearable and causes so many mean, destructive thoughts) because I am so excited to start my dream job, and I have bounced from country to country all my adult life anyway so I’m used to it. It may cause him anxiety, but I guess he will deal with it to be with me.

I like your suggestion but I think the likelihood of getting him to pay attention to another device is unlikely (unless I can find a really simple/keychain device). I just discovered by Googling that I can “ring” a phone connected to a Google account even if it’s on silent with their Android Device Manager… maybe we can connect his phone to a neutral account and that will work. He’s a programmer… I told him before to make an app that gives him an electric shock, but he said it’s not possible. Darn. Thanks for the impulse to find a solution like this though.

AH