Hey csihdu,

This is very common for people of our age group. Have had too many friends tell me this about their other circles.

My suggestion would be to simply spend less time with them. Stay in touch but less frequently, more towards an activity that you like and they may find acceptable too – instead of movie at home, say a nice blockbuster and a fun time bowling instead. Then say bye and scram 😛 Text them once in a while, call infrequently – don’t disappear but don’t be too much into hanging out either.

Who knows maybe in a couple of years they will change too and you might just have a common wavelength after all?

Meanwhile get closer to those friends who are more your type. It’s okay to do this, some friendships drift away once in a while when there are way too many marked differences and no common view to hold it together.

So relax and enjoy your life in your own way. You are doing alright it seems and kudos for posting here. I could really identify with what you described in terms of peer group. Partying till 5 am isn’t for everyone, some people are just kinda “deep” compared to their age.

No point pretending to be someone else.

Regards,
Nina

• This reply was modified 8 years ago by Nina Sakura.