Dear blkhwkdwn1:

Emotional Reasoning is one of the distorted categories of thinking I learned about in CBT therapy. Something feels off to you since that night- it FEELS off to you, but it doesn’t mean it is so to her. I remember the exchange you had with her about that night and she sounded fine and dandy about it.

Because something FEELS a certain way, does not mean it is. So how do you know? You ask. This is what I learned in CBT- to ask, just for information. Such a simple tool, often unused while people choose instead to suffer in the agony of guessing and imagining the worse. Reality is often better than what we imagine…

anita