Dear jayorts:

You asked me: “Do you think a handwritten letter to him would be appropriate?”

No, it will not be appropriate. There is only ONE appropriate thing you can do in relation to this man and his family and friends: 100% no contact. Not now, not after the New Year, not for as long as you live.

You wrote in your original post: “I am still a mess, mentally and emotionally.”- I agree.

You wrote: “I tried soooo many steps to moving forward but to no avail…’Time heals all wounds’ as the old adage says but somehow, that seems to be false.” – I agree, time did not heal you.

Please do the loving thing and leave this man (and his family and friends) alone. It is not loving (love is in the title of your thread) to disrespect the person you love, to violate his clearly stated assertions (for no contact). If you love him, and if you want to help yourself, attend competent psychotherapy and see a psychiatrist for effective medication for your obsession. You are a woman “Still Obsessed.”

anita