Hey Anita. Thank you so much. I think I understand what you are saying.

A) I wrote the example wrong.
1) I felt bad or 2) I thought you felt bad

So, it was either me or him being the victim.
The first time we talked about this he told me that he felt bad.
The next time we talked, he told me that he thought I felt bad. However, I felt great and had not given him reason to think anything else.

This is a matter of contex. If he dosen’t feel good, he should be able to tell me. Without being held back by his pride. Instead he made me think I was the problem.

You see, I feel like I’m always being the one apologizing.
Now, this is fair to some extent because I know I have my issues just as he does, but I want a mutual relationship where I don’t always have to bend over backwards for him and think of solutions.

B) I don’t know how to adress problems because he gets angry when I do. That’s whether I
1) Try to be nice and talk calmly.
2) Mention something positive/make a compliment before adressing the issue.
Or 3) Try to relate to him and then explain my point of view.

I feel like I am running out of solutions.
My question is, how can I adress this and other issues when they occur without causing him to be angry?
Thank you again. I really love him and I want this to work out. 🙂