Dear magnoliachrysanthe:

How to address issues without him getting angry?

You tried to Try to be nice and talk calmly, mention something positive/make a compliment before addressing the issue and you Tried to relate to him and then explain my point of view. these methods failed.

Looking at the latest conversation between the two of you, in parenthesis I will write a possibility (only a possibility or two) of what each person was thinking:

“Him: How is your night?
Me: Great. Why? (I am pretending to have a good time, are you saying I am not pretending well enough/I am feeing better than I did before, in comparison I am feeling great, so what is your problem?)

Him: It dosen’t seem like you’re having a good time. (She definitely looks like she is not having a good time. Why is she lying to me? Or am I crazy..?)

Me: Well, I am. How are you?
Him: I’m fine as well. (Why bother be honest with you about how I feel; you are not honest with me!)

Talking about it later (him): I felt bad. (the truth)
Talking about it again for the 3. time (him): I thought you felt bad. (You sure looked like you were feeling bad and that made me feel bad.)

My answer to your question (B) depends on your further reply.

anita