Dear emberlyn:

Did he text his ex girlfriend during the visit you had with him or before? If he texted her before your last visit with him, how long before the visit?

Obviously, the attachment he felt for her is still ongoing. It takes time to undo an emotional attachment. He has been forming a new attachment to you while his old attachment is not yet undone.

He was somewhat dishonest about his current feelings for her, the ongoing attachment and being open, to one extent or another, to more time and closeness with her.

If I was in your place, seeing the name of the ex in recent history, on his phone, I assure you, I too will be looking. Too tempting.

Since you are back, have you been thinking about telling him you saw the texts.. or asking him questions to.. check if he will be lying to you (thoughts that occurred to me)?

anita