Dear Sammi:

You wrote: “Punching bags don’t fight back for a reason”- this means to me that you consider yourself a “punching bag” and that the punching is done by your mother’s live-in boyfriend.

From the beginning of your thread I expressed to you my position, still and always in effect, that a parent should not subject a minor to living with a person the minor is uncomfortable with. So, your mother should not have this man living with the two of you.

Back to the punching bag, please let me know if I understand correctly (and I did not re-read your posts here, so I may miss something): his punching of you is and never has been physical. Or sexual. He never damaged your belongings, your property; never entered your room uninvited. His punching consists on comments he makes about you to your mother, like suggesting you are “soft” and “lazy.”

Am I correct?

anita