Dear Sammi:

I am trying to understand the nature of his abuse of you in order to answer your question following my suggestion that you assert yourself with him: “”What could be the best outcome, out of that? What would I even say?”

To answer this question I need to understand the nature of his abuse of you: what is it? Does he scream at you? Calling you names (what names?)

Is it that you overhear him say to your mother that you are “soft” or “lazy”- is that the abuse you are dreading? What about him and his behavior keeps you in your room 23 hours per day for the last two years, and “tremble with dread when he got home”?

anita