Dear Poppy:

Almost a month ago, you wrote on a previous thread: ” I’m a people pleaser, a rescuer & I over function in relationships so I can where & why this is coming from.”

No wonder you are studying to be a counselor. I think most therapists go into the field because they are driven to rescue, often, to rescue a parent.

Regarding your ex boyfriend, it just so happens your mother is correct, if I may say so. Hey, even a broken clock is correct twice every 24 hours, so it is.

And as competent therapist do learn, sooner or later, you can’t fix your parents, before, during or after the successful completion of the educational training: it is because you lack the objectivity required to heal your parents, their relationship, and your relationships with them.

As a rescuer (your word), best you rescue yourself. So this boyfriend texting his ex, repeatedly, didn’t want a friendship with you. He wanted (a month ago) a physical relationship or nothing at all; he said he won’t wait. So he is back with flowers. Still not wanting to be just friends; still not willing to wait?

anita