Thank you Anita.

He also constantly asks what the man’s name is and wants to know where he works. The only reason I haven’t told him is because he has kids my age and I’m scared my boyfriend will show up at his office to see what he looks like (I’m 100% sure he will do this) (do you think I should tell him?). The only thing I told him was that he’s older and offered me a lot of perspective because he’s successful, knowledgeable and owns his own business. I think my boyfriend tries to compare himself to him all the time because when we argue he would say – “go find someone who has drive and is successful…go back to that old man.”

To be fair it’s just as much as my fault as his, because you are right. I should leave and be with the person I feel I am compatible with and he should leave because he can’t accept my past. We’ve both “chosen” to stay and it’s unhealthy.