Dear selfhealingorganism:

Your last post is congruent with my point above: “neither your mother nor your grandmother deserve to have authority over your thinking” and adds to it:

Neither your mother or your grandmother or ex boyfriend… or next boyfriend should have authority over your thinking.

Your best bet is to rely on your own thinking. Those three mentioned have failed you. You know better than the three of you what is best for you.

Making your own money; making your own money in a way that doesn’t make you feel badly about yourself; picking the next boyfriend as one to have way better thinking than the last one- all these are best for you, according to what you shared yourself.

Do rely on your own logic, your own experience… learn from what you see around you (and inside you)- what you’ve seen and heard and experienced in the past- make yourself more and more the authority over your life.

And please do post anytime- would like to continue to communicate here with you.

anita