Dear regijones:

Not all-depressions-are-created-equal. His depression is different from yours. His lead to the breakup while yours did not lead you that way. Your two individual lives, from childhood and on, are different from each other. The particular fears are different and the solutions each found to those fears (however temporary or ineffective) are different.

For example, maybe your solution to your fears/ anxiety (which is probably in the core of the depression), has been to reach out to him for comfort, to dream of a new life maybe, in a new place. His solution, maybe, is to disconnect to anything he is associating with his anxiety. Your solution, in other words, is to connect MORE with him, and his solution is to connect LESS with you.

What do you think?

anita