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Dear Laion Pessoa:
I agree with your therapist, that you are trying to escape your parents. Focusing on your mother- you are trying to escape her. Problem is, she is part of you via those neurological pathways in the brain. You loath her, understandably, but because she is part of you, you loath yourself.
The solution (oh, if only it was easy) is in separating from her, mentally. The physical separation, for me, has been necessary. When that happened (no contact at all), my mental separation process only began.
When you separate from your mother, become your own person, finding your own voice- it will be possible for you to be YOU, free of her, not only when partying but within a loving relationship.
Hope you post again, will write more, if you want.
anita