Dear just A Name:

In your first paragraph you wrote: “everything started one day during an argue i got so much upset and i said ‘If we continue like this and we won’t stop i think the only way to fix is to break up’”-

Is she the one of the two of you who started that argument that day? How about most/ all arguments at other times?

If she was the argumentative one of the two of you, then no wonder you wanted to stop the arguments/ fighting. If so, you were correct: the only way to fix it was to break up.

A person wanting to fight doesn’t have the right to attack another and hurt them, not one time and not on a regular basis. Fighting and hurting should not be the price for having a relationship.

When you break up with a person who is hurtful, you are doing the right thing, protecting yourself, standing up to abuse. You do not owe an abuser to be abused as a price of a relationship.

anita