Dear xmd1:

The fact that she initiated the breakup does not mean you are at fault for it. If she blames you for it, it doesn’t mean you are guilty. Often people point the finger of blame at another as their MO.

And you don’t have to be the one moving out of the apartment you share with her. This is her wish, understandably. You may wish to remain there, and that she moves out since it is her idea to break up.

The breakup will get easier once you no longer live together. It will get easier if she doesn’t share with you and you don’t follow her present and future relationships with other men. And it will get easier as you avail yourself, sometime in the future, for a new and better relationship for yourself.

Hope you post again and that you feel better soon enough.

anita