Dear Just A Name:

I just realized I confused your thread with another present thread that I answered this morning. I confused the other person’s story (a man in his twenties, older than you) with yours. Your girlfriend (unlike the other guy’s) did not live with you like a married couple. Also, I think it is the other man who was doing better, not you. I apologize for my confusion.

Nonetheless, I still believe that you are not responsible for her feelings and behaviors. She is responsible for lying to you, not you. The fact that you did not behave perfectly with her does not justify her lying to you and disrespecting you that way and otherwise. No one is perfect in relationships, it is simply impossible.

I hope you feel better soon. Post again, if you’d like.

anita