Dear preetika:

I understand you are in pain and do hope the divorce does proceed and that you recover from this ordeal.

You wrote it was a “love marriage,” as opposed, I figure, to arranged-marriage. But this love-marriage was not about love, on his part, is my understanding. After all, he was involved with another woman at the same time he was dating you, marrying you and since. All he has done during this marriage is deny being dishonest with you and pointing the finger of blame at you. And when you moved out, he made no effort to reconnect.

You are wondering if he loves you. My answer is: no.

You are wondering “what is there on his mind”- I don’t know what is on his mind (I can guess about that), but I do know, from your sharing, what is NOT on his mind- love for you has not been on his mind.

What is on his mind? Possibilities: The other woman, other women, money, life outside this marriage and approaching divorce.

Do you have any idea why he married you at all, what was his motivation?

anita