HI Anita, thank you for your speedy/kind reply. We are still together…I thought we had worked through all this regarding his family. His excuse for ripping open my letter was he wanted to know what it was so when he saw them again he wouldn’t get caught off guard…but all he had to do was ask me what it was. His family just always comes first no matter what. I don’t know what to do just yet…I know I have to think clearly and not be in a place of being upset when I make a decision regarding my marriage. I stayed in my marriage because I believe in working things out and not using divorce as a easy way out as many do. I’ve had many people tell me to leave him but I do love him and I had faith in him to see that I/we/our marriage came first. I also know he/we had things to learn..we were young 18 and 21 when we met and married a year later. But I knew enough at that age that our marriage should have come first…that I should have come first. He and my girls have always come first in my life…so much so that I lost myself and had to get it back. But you are right…I am going to send those passages from the bible to his mother and his family. While it is too late regarding them since I’ve set my boundaries and don’t go over to see them anymore…my marriage is in jeopardy again. YOu know this is really sad though…this weekend is my husbands bday and I had planned a date night. We were going out to eat a nice dinner and then come home to just dance all night…all I’ve wanted to do since we dated is dance with my husband. So I made a song list up on my pc and it was going to play all night…just dancing. Now I don’t want to do any of it. I’m just hurt…and I hate feeling that AGAIN. I haven’t danced with him prob since we dated..maybe a long time ago at a wedding but nothing major. We have been through 2 liver transplants(doing well) with him and I’m grateful for every moment I have with him now…so I don’t understand this…just lost. But I’ll regroup as always and figure something out. Again thank you.