Dear julia9278:

You asked: “What sort of decent human being lies, cheats…?”- no sort of decent human being does it. He is not decent. The fact that sometimes you saw him in some emotional pain does not mean he is decent, as EVERY human being is sometimes in pain.

He is not about love or truth. Or personal healing.

Your personal healing is about having no contact with him, whatever it takes. If I was you, I wouldn’t socialize with him alone or in a group. I wouldn’t talk to any of the mutual friends about him anymore. Let your friends know that you don’t want to talk about him or hear about him from them. If you see him, ignore him.

You are too vulnerable to him, this is why I am suggesting this. You know who he is but you are also emotionally attached to him and so, you depart from what you know when interacting with him.

And indeed, life is not fair or just, most often it is not. Make justice for yourself best you can- by having no contact with him.

anita