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Thanks for sharing. Breakups suck. But what are you doing that is getting you out of your funk? Many times in times of stress i forget about the incredible things i have in my life. My family, friends who care, 2 legs, 2 arms, no disability, the ability to do what i want, a car, the list goes on and on. The struggles in life take us away from things that are most important. What’s most important to you is what sounds like you truly valued this relationship. But did she as well?
I wont pretend to have the answers but what has always helped me in times of distress is gratitude. What is great in your life? Capitalize on the awesome things you are already doing and that are around you.
Try these:
For the next twenty four hours, deliberately speak hopefully about everything in your life. Your job, your health, your future, your family, your friends. Go out of your way to be optimistic about everything. This will be difficult if it is a habit to see things negatively but you must attempt to find the good in everything.
7 layers of fear/stress – Basically, its a game to get down to the root of the problem. It goes like this. Why are you depressed? because of this..? Why is it because of this? because of that… why is it that? etc.. You get the picture. You must find the root of the issue at hand. Once you have identified it, then you may be able to move forward.
Try thinking about what you gained from the relationship instead of what you lost. Its a war out there buddy, battle.
Kyle