Dear neversaynever:

I trust your account of her behavior in the relationship with you- it is believable and I am familiar with this dynamic: one person doing more and more, hoping to satisfy the other; the other demanding more and more, never to be satisfied.

Back to your username: never-say-never, well her appropriate name would be never-to-be-satisfied. You can go out of your way for the next ten years, twenty years, lifetime- and the result will always be the same. What a waste of time and energy.

Clearly, never. And so, best you can do is exit the relationship and remain outside of it. However difficult your loneliness, do aspire for a loving relationship. A loving, Win-Win relationship is possible for you, only not with her. It is possible with someone else.

Look where it is possible for you to find what you need and want. Not where it has already proven impossible.

anita