Dear dom:

In the U.S. there are shelters for women and children, some are very nice, like a group home with meals, toys, and counselors on-site. Those shelters are kept a secret from the (allegedly) abusive husband/ boyfriends- the condition for staying there is that the abuser doesn’t know where his wife and children are. If you live in the U.S., or anywhere else where such shelters are available, you may suggest it to the wife. You can look at “Helpful Free Resources” under HOME, above, left for such help.

Even if your father agreed that his daughter-in-law and children will stay in his home, your brother will know where they are and will make it very difficult or impossible for them to stay with you and your father. If your father has the financial means he can help her get a separation, divorce, rent a place, etc. but that will take a lot of money.

You are a caring 17 year old, only a child yourself…

How old is your brother and how long has he been troubled- do you know the origins of his troubled mind?

anita