Dear jlo5:

You are welcome. Clearly, by your own testimony, moving to your own place with the children, no longer living with their father, is a very good choice for your children and for you. I hope that the current 0.00001% that you will return to a relationship with the man does not experience a mathematical-miracle of sorts and that you will not be back with him. Because of your long history with him, and the “conditioning” that you mentioned, you are likely to experience the emotional motivation to be back with him. When you do (not “if” but “when”)- I hope you re-read your own posts here. And please, do post anytime.

anita