Dear iwbi95:

You are welcome and thank you for your appreciation (makes me feel nice and warm in this cold, grey evening)!

If you attend counseling, hope it will start with the practical teaching of those skills I mentioned. Assertiveness is one of those skills, very important. Emotional regulation (keeping yourself as calm as possible, alleviating distress in effective ways) is another set of skills.

Best would be if you and him could attend couple counseling- that way you could practice being assertive, as well as the E and R of the EAR in the counselor’s office.

Hope you do post again, will be glad to reply every time you do.

anita