Dear Jojo:

Your have been a virtual friend and a virtual sex partner to this woman. Now you are her virtual prisoner.

It started with a virtual communication for which you were only 50% responsible. She had the other 50%. Now, she gives you 100% responsibility, owning none herself.

(What happens with her marriage is really, none of your business. She may be having an abusive marriage and it may be better for her to separate- I wouldn’t push her toward maintaining her marriage, if I was you).

I highly recommend, if I may, that you cut all contact with her irreversibly and completely, today. This relationship is causing you much harm. Save yourself.

What will happen to her if you cut all contact with her? Most likely, nothing at all. Clearly, she doesn’t care about your well being. She is no longer your friend. Her interest is that to imprison you with guilt as she has been doing for so long.

You imagine she is the weak party, about to lose trust in humanity if you end contact with her, but it is you who are the weak one- you are behind lock and key while she is holding the key.

All you have to do to free yourself from this prison you are in is at your fingertips. Do it!

anita