Dear jbradford2012:

My answer:

The root of your loneliness- having been painfully betrayed by your mother and your father as a child, day after day, year after year. The two people you needed to love you so desperately, gave you so little and then took it away and more by neglect and abuse.

No pain greater than the pain of an innocent child, all loving, all trusting, all open, vulnerable when betrayed.

“Solutions to fix it”- competent psychotherapy. Stay away from solutions that didn’t solve anything, stay away from more of the same. Don’t rush to not be lonely on your birthday any which way. The healing way is long. Brace yourself for a few years of hard work. The good news in five years you can find yourself in a place in life you can’t imagine now to be possible.

Please do post more.

anita