Dear Ellie:

You are welcome. I believe in competent psychotherapy as the place to explore and process the past. If it was only possible to simply “forgive fully and let it all go”-

Thing is, these past experiences exist in the present as connections in our brains. The past is literally part of our brain as it is now, not only as memories, dry memories, but in the form of emotions. Those emotions greatly influence our present. To explore, examine, process those emotions is like untying knots. Eventually, you are left with memories, but those emotional knots get untied, and you become untangled and free to “have meaningful, healthy relationships.”

Not all therapists are created equal. To find the right one, how do you go about it?

anita