That makes a lot of sense. Im generally a mellow person because i like to keep calm and in control, so i dont lash out the way my father used to. When im with my gf my guard is down and im able to express myself freely and enjoy her company. My insecurities tend to creep in but shes incredibly sweet and understanding and wants to help me gain my confidence back. Sometimes its hard to silence that little voice in the back of my head but when I look at her i feel an immense sense of peace