Dear bricklady:

You read like a reasonable person. I am still trying to understand this situation. For that purpose, next question, if you are willing:

In your original post you wrote: ” I know he is hurting but to cut everyone out of your life, to end all means of support is hard on US. He reads and listens to what WE say but it doesn’t sink in that he is pushing away THE PEOPLE that love him.”

Who is the “us” and “the people”? Are you referring to you and his few friends; The friends who have “never seen him act like this” and who “talked to him numerous times on how difficult this will be to cut me off from the children with no explanation. How he is rude to (you and them)”-

If so, reads to me that you have a significant amount of interactions with his friends, interactions without him. You and his friends discuss him a lot? Does he know about those interactions and how does he feel about it?

anita