I am referring to him and his friends. He and I met through a handful of mutual friends last year. I have been friends with them for about 7 years and he over 10, and us never meeting each other. They are his best friends and my very close friends. We have always checked in every few weeks to see how things and and plan a lunch or dinner meet up. They see him additionally throughout the week because they live in the same city as him and have dinner at least once a week with everyone. He knows that I talk to them about everything under the sun including him as I know he does to them about me. It is always in a respectful manner. Whether it was getting input on a Christmas gift idea, to planning a surprise mid week lunch trip or to let them know that the kids have been down and we had been struggling with that, and how he has retreated and is acting now.

His friends has been trying repeatedly to meet with him in person to see how his is. To find out how he is going to tell the kids that he has broken up with me. To find out why he feels that he needs to break things off so that he can work on himself, and why is he pushing them away as well. He keeps avoiding them and saying that he needs to be by himself to work on this.