Dear bricklady:

It reads to me like there is hope and I agree with you that “he needs to be transparent with (you) and open.”

Anxiety is very difficult to deal with, and yours has increased, as a result of his, and his abrupt ending of the relationship. Be cautious, you have to take care of your own well being.

I suppose he ended everything at the time because when anxious, people tend to employ all-or-nothing thinking, and he went for Nothing. So this may be his tendency when anxious: all – or – nothing. Prepare for the likelihood of such tendency.

Couple therapy could be helpful for the two of you to deal with anxiety, your own and each other’s.
If he saw you as a solution to his anxiety, he would seek your company. If he sees you as the cause of his anxiety, he will avoid you. In couple therapy, a competent therapist can teach him how to be effectively transparent and open with you about his anxiety, and it will teach you how to respond to him and take care of yourself at the same time.

Hope you post again, anytime, in preparation for your meeting with him Saturday and/ or after.

anita