Dear Fenrir:

It is a good idea to silence those demons, best you can, when you are with her, not only when you are alone. It is not a good idea to keep telling her in the future that she is too incredible for you, that you can’t believe that someone like her can love someone like you. And then wait for her to tell you that you are incredible, etc. This may very well get tiring for her.

If you feel the compulsion to state these feelings so to receive her reassurance, resist it. Remember what she already said instead of asking her to say it again.

Fenrir, she is not AS incredible as you think. I am sure she is incredible, but stop looking up to her. Aim at looking at her as an equal. You don’t feel it yet, but you are as amazing as she is. Keep being as supportive and loving to her as you are, but aim at not maintaining the I-am-unworthy-of-you message. If you agree with my reasoning here, you can share it with her.

anita