Dear perfect:

When you “did every single thing for him.i cooked ,washed his dresses ,massaged his body feets and hands when he asked me to do every single thing..” you offered yourself to him as his servant. Not a girlfriend, not an equal partner.

In return he was sometimes nice to his servant (you) and sometimes rude. At times cruel.

I suggest you offer yourself to a man you meet in the future as a girlfriend, an equal partner, not a servant. If you want to massage his feet, fine. Let him massage your feet too. If you are good at washing his clothes and he is not, fine, wash his clothes, but let him repair your shoes if they need repair. You get my point…?

You are confused because you are asking HIM questions and you are waiting for him to give you answers. Problem with doing so is that he likes some of the things you do for him, at least at times, when it is convenient for him. Every once in a while he misses what you do for him, the services you provide for him: cooking for him, washing his clothes, massaging his body, touching and stimulating him sexually, so he is not motivated to tell you his truth.

And what is his truth? Reads to me that his truth is that he likes you sometimes for the services you provide for him. In other words, he likes you sometimes as his servant.

Do you want to be a man’s servant or a man’s equal and respected girlfriend?

anita