Dear Blaked12:

You wrote: “I went with the mantra ‘LOVE ENDURES ALL'”- wrong mantra: love does not endure abuse. You are enduring abuse because you are misunderstanding love. Love and abuse do not fit. When you endure abuse, you are not loved, that is clear; but you are also not loving.

How do I know you are not loving? Because you allowed your biological child- who, unlike your wife and her children, did you NO harm- to be abused, and she is hurting, through no fault of her own.

You wrote: “my goal and true intention was simply for us to be a ‘Happy Family’ of togetherness!!!”- a good goal, only you should have chosen another wife. You can’t achieve this goal with this one.

You wrote: “I’ve put up a vision board of how this vision is being dreamed by me, I have placed positive and uplifting quotes throughout my home and they were all taken down and put on my vision board, basically given the message, I don’t wanna see these”- it takes two to set and follow a vision of a healthy, loving marriage. There is only one willing here.

Your wife achieved her goal of ejecting your daughter from your home and now she wants you to stop paying child support for your daughter. She succeeded in isolating you from your friends, using you any which way, and you endure all this- why?

anita