Dear learningmimi:

My answer: you stop doing the things you do FOR your family that are AGAINST you. You stop sacrificing your freedom, your well being for family. You save yourself from their dysfunction, their out-of-sync behavior. And you focus on living a life that makes sense.

You can’t change their minds, their hearts, the ways they live. You can only change the ways you live. It takes courage to separate from a family, to separate enough so to make a sensible life for yourself. I hope you have that courage.

anita