Dear alip13:

Emotional upheaval is like an earthquake in the brain, and when the dust settles, after the earthquake, there is clarity, for a while, anyway. Sudden changes do that, changes other than ending of a relationship. To maintain clarity takes an active part: learning all you can, seeing all you can, as a daily objective.

If you would like to write more about what you learned from this relationship, please do.

I was wondering, you wrote: “this was not a black and white relationship, it was extremely grey, extremely rocky.”

If a grey relationship means extremely rocky, what is a “black relationship”? A “white relationship”?

anita