Dear Danielle:

Definitely resist the compulsion, refrain. That will, over time, as you persist and resist, break the link between the Obsession and the Compulsion, which is what Obsessive-Compulsive disorder about, this very link.

It only feels like there will be a relief if you perform the compulsion, in your case, talk to him about it one more time, just this once. But if there is a relief it is only temporary. What happens instead is that as you talked to him one more time, the link is strengthened and the compulsion will reappear again, strong.

It will be difficult to resist, as you know, because you have been trying to resist. But this time, be determined in your mind that talking to him (giving in to the compulsion) is not an option, that no matter how strong the compulsion, how miserable you feel, how desperate, no matter what… you will not.

Over time, as you succeed, you will build a sense of pride in yourself for being able to do this. You will feel a sense of power and the link will weaken, the compulsion will weaken.

Persist to resist and the compulsion will cease and desist. You will see.

Post again.

anita