Dear Josh:

Assuming you were trying to answer my question (?)- do you mean that the warning signs were what you later read in self help books, that you were not the leader in the relationship?

You mentioned her lack of communication, as I understand it. You wrote that she avoided confrontations. That is congruent with her not sharing with you her dissatisfaction and leaving a note behind, then texting without in-person communication (and the dreaded confrontations)-

you spent a lot of time with her family. I wonder if you noticed a dynamic there that could possibly explain her dread of being assertive and of confrontations?

* Will be away from the computer for a while.

anita