Dear Danielle:

Good job resisting last night! Continue.

He can never and will never be  able to say it just right, maybe for a short moment, at best. But for the sake of that short moment, you strengthened the compulsion to ask yet again, to feel relief yet again.

No matter how badly you feel, resist. You will continue to feel badly as you resist, but you will be working for a long term resolution. At the least, in that feeling-badly (the resisting), there is hope for a better future.

OCD is not openness (your last comment)- at the least it is not a communication openness. It is more like an open wound bleeding and bleeding with no end in sight.

Please do post again, and, again: good job!

anita