Dear bricklady:

Ouch (the flower festival no response), ouch (your birthday not mentioned) and ouch (your offer to come over and help), I see how each hurt. But, you shouldn’t have mentioned the first or the third. That is not in line with the plan of waiting and not initiating anything. You got too excited, encouraged by the friend’s input and by Brickman texting yo a lot… and you got  impatient…

So, back to the plan: initiate nothing at all. No initiation, no offers to meet (covert or overt), no offers to help- it is not helping you!

And understandably, you got angry and want radio silence.

If you don’t initiate anything, this will not happen. Please, expect nothing.

This is not easy, is it? But it is not impossible. Take a hot bath and let the anger dissolve into the water. Don’t try to figure anything out when angry (“when your anger goes up, your IQ goes down” is the saying).

anita