Dear lonedove:

How exciting: you are the first person other than me, on this website, in my experience here, who is referring to the Freudian Ego and not to the Buddhist Ego!

When you don’t feel like being vulnerable, when it doesn’t feel authentic, it is when the Id (aka inner child) is saying: no, I don’t want to! Don’t want to! I am scared!

The Superego, when it takes after an un-empathetic parent, may make fun of the Id, talk down to it. But the Ego, if you are in the process of healing, will take the hand of the scared child and slowly lead her to take a small vulnerable step, just one, because it is for your benefit.

When a kind Ego replaces the unkind Superego, being gentle and patient with the Id, “parenting” that inner child with love, then a choice that doesn’t feel right is authentic because it comes from self care.

Does it make sense to you, what I wrote here?

anita