Dear Tsveta Borissova:

Too bad you went through such experience. I hope you will feel better very soon and that you will get into a loving, dependable relationship later, when you are ready.

The man’s new girlfriend is probably not going to believe you at all because, as you wrote, he is the perfect boyfriend until he loses interest. You are the ex girlfriend, the one with the grudge, and so, not likely to be believable to the new girlfriend. Plus, you can not predict the future, so better not attempt to communicate with her.

There is no way to will yourself not to feel this pain. It will help if you have no contact with him and with anyone associated with him. It will help if you socialize with people, go out, not get into a relationship anytime soon, but be around friendly people.

It will also help to take care of yourself, as in daily exercise, maybe yoga, pursue an interest (healthy distraction), etc.

anita