Anita,

thank you again. I think you have a higher awareness than someone with a broken heart:) I am truly grateful for your insight.

I feel that because he is able to have a relationship with someone else, he is more at peace with not being together than I am. Although I left him, the heart still very much wants him. It is agonizing knowing he’s with someone who is much more aligned to his interests and values (we disagreed on religion and politics, and he was very much sure he wanted a family). Even knowing I would never change my views on certain things, this still hurts. It hurts that he has so quickly found this woman who shares with him the things I didn’t. Again, the jealousy and insecurity takes over my thoughts.

I am trying to understand and realize that someone else’s love and affection and attention does not make me whole or complete or more worthy. But I’ve struggled this problem since I started dating, have gone to some therapy for it, but it seems worse than ever.