Dear mapnerd:

We humans (like other mammals) are born with the need to attach to someone else, to the adult person who takes care of our physical needs, a parent figure. Our physical needs include being touched, shown empathy, and feeling SAFE. If that need is not adequately satisfied in childhood, we grow up to be excessively needy of attachment to another person, usually in a romantic relationship.

With your ex boyfriend, at times, you felt SAFE, but in reality, you weren’t. It only FELT safe. As you think about him now, you imagine that there is safety with him. Although there isn’t.

Did we communicate about your relationship/s with your parents, as a child, and now?

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anita